When Motherhood Feels Like Too Much: Finding Yourself Again in the Overwhelm
There are moments in motherhood that take your breath away; the first smile, tiny hands wrapped around your finger, sleepy cuddles that melt the day away.
But there are also moments that feel like too much.
When the to-do list never ends, but your energy ran out hours ago.
When your body is tired, your mind is racing, and you can’t remember the last time you did something just for you.
When you’re trying to be everything to everyone… and quietly wondering if you're disappearing in the process.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. So many mothers carry this weight in silence, wondering if it’s just them.
It’s not. And nothing about you is failing.
The Invisible Load
There’s a name for what many mothers carry day in, day out. It’s called the mental load; the invisible planning, remembering, organising, worrying, anticipating, comforting, and doing that often goes unseen but never stops.
It’s the remembering who needs clean PE kits, who has allergies at the party, who needs a lift, who’s had a tough week, what’s in the fridge, and what you’ve forgotten but will suddenly remember at 3am.
Even when you love your children more than anything, that kind of constant thinking can wear you down. It’s not just physical tiredness — it’s emotional exhaustion.
You’re Still You (Even If You Feel Lost Right Now)
Somewhere in all of this — the noise, the mess, the love, the chaos, there’s still you.
The version of you who isn’t just “mum,” but a whole person in her own right.
The version who needs care too. Who might be quietly struggling. Who wants to feel calm and connected again.
You’re allowed to miss parts of yourself.
You’re allowed to need a break.
You’re allowed to say, “This is hard,” even when you’re deeply grateful.
Motherhood is not all-or-nothing. You can love your children and still find it overwhelming. Both can be true.
What Support Can Look Like
Sometimes, support doesn’t come in the form of someone swooping in and fixing everything.
Sometimes, it looks like:
A space to talk where you don’t have to justify how you feel
A moment of calm in a week that feels too loud
A reminder that you’re doing better than you think
Tools to help your mind slow down, so you can catch your breath again
That’s what I offer in Solution Focused Hypnotherapy.
How Hypnotherapy Can Help with the Overwhelm
At Trancespire, I work with mothers who are exhausted, anxious, low in mood, or simply stretched so thin they feel like they’re running on autopilot.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy gives you space to pause.
To reconnect.
To remember what it feels like to be you again.
Here’s how it can help:
Lowering the stress response in your nervous system so things don’t feel quite so heavy
Improving sleep and restoring some of the mental clarity that’s been missing
Refocusing on what’s working, so your mind builds momentum around your strengths instead of your stress
Helping you imagine a calmer version of life, and take small steps toward it
It’s a gentle, forward-looking approach. No pressure. No reliving past pain. Just space to explore what’s possible, in your own time.
You Deserve to Be Supported, Too
You don’t have to wait until you’re completely burnt out to ask for help.
You don’t have to explain everything to deserve support.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Being a good mum doesn’t mean being a perfect one. It means being a present one; and that includes being present with yourself, too.
So if something inside you is saying “I need a little more support,” that’s worth listening to.
If it feels like time to put yourself back on the list, I’d love to help.
Trancespire offers Solution Focused Hypnotherapy online across the UK and in person near Brecon, Wales.
📍 Based in Llangorse, near Brecon, Hay-On-Wye, and Crickhowell, Wales — also available online UK-wide.
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