Father’s Day: Holding Space for What’s True
Father’s Day can be a beautiful celebration — a chance to honour the dads who’ve been there, loved us well, and helped shape who we are.
But for many, it’s also a quiet ache. A day that stirs up more than gratitude. A day that doesn’t fit neatly into a card or a gift.
Maybe you’ve lost your dad; and this day brings a wave of longing you weren’t quite expecting.
Maybe he was never really there, even when he was.
Maybe he left. Or maybe he chose not to be part of your life at all.
Maybe you’re grieving the kind of father you wish you’d had.
Or maybe you're someone who longs to be a dad, but that journey hasn’t happened the way you hoped.
If any of that feels familiar, you're not alone.
A Day That Doesn’t Always Feel Like Yours
Social media and shop displays paint Father’s Day in bold, bright colours; but behind the scenes, so many people are quietly carrying something much heavier.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling mixed emotions. You can be happy for others and still hold sadness for yourself. You can love someone and grieve them. You can honour a dad and feel anger too.
You don’t have to tidy it up or push it down. You’re allowed to feel exactly how you feel.
When Fatherhood Leaves a Mark
The role of a father is powerful. When that presence is nurturing, it can lay the foundation for resilience, trust, and confidence. But when it’s absent, critical, or unsafe, it can leave deep wounds, ones that still echo in adulthood.
Those echoes might show up as self-doubt, people-pleasing, trouble setting boundaries, or never feeling quite “enough.” You may not connect those things to your dad right away; but they matter. Your story matters.
And if you’re walking a path of loss, disappointment, or unfulfilled dreams around fatherhood, your pain is real too. The pressure to “be fine” or stay cheerful doesn’t erase what you carry.
Finding Gentleness in the Hard Days
You don’t have to make sense of it all today. You don’t have to fix it or make peace with it if you’re not ready.
But you can choose gentleness.
You can limit your time on social media.
You can speak to someone who understands.
You can take a quiet moment for yourself.
You can feel sad, or numb, or angry; and know it’s valid.
And if Father’s Day is a day of celebration for you, that’s beautiful too. Just remember - not everyone walks into it with the same heart.
How Solution Focused Hypnotherapy Can Support You
At Trancespire, I work with people navigating all kinds of stories — especially the ones that feel complicated or too heavy to carry alone.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy offers a safe, supportive space to explore what’s going well, what strengths you already have, and what small steps can help you feel more balanced. It doesn’t ask you to relive painful memories, it helps you move forward gently, at your own pace.
This approach can ease anxiety, lift low mood, and support healing after grief, trauma or strained family dynamics. It’s rooted in neuroscience and guided by hope.
However this day finds you — know that you're not alone.
You are allowed to feel it all. You are allowed to soften. You are allowed to rewrite the story of what care, safety, and love can mean to you now.
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