Is Self-Love Indulgent? Or Is It Something Else?
Sometimes, the idea of self-love can feel… a bit selfish, can’t it?
It can sound fluffy, like a luxury reserved for weekends or wellness retreats — something you’re only allowed once everything else is done. For many of us, especially those who are used to putting others first or measuring our worth by how helpful or productive we are, the concept of self-love can feel strangely uncomfortable.
But what if self-love isn’t about indulgence or pampering?
What if it’s about something much deeper — and much simpler?
Rethinking What Self-Love Really Means
Let’s shift the narrative. Think for a moment about how a parent loves a child.
You don’t love a child because they’re achieving something. You don’t say, “I’ll love you more when you get it right.”
You love them because they’re yours.
Because it’s your responsibility — and your privilege — to care for them, protect them, and help them thrive.
What If You Treated Yourself That Way?
You were given one life. One body. One mind.
And with that comes one job: to take care of yourself in the best way you know how.
Not because you’ve hit a certain goal.
Not because you’re perfect.
But simply because you’re yours.
Self-Love Isn’t Indulgent — It’s Foundational
True self-love isn’t about bubble baths or buying expensive things.
It’s about choosing to show up for yourself — with kindness, patience, and compassion — even when things are hard. Especially when things are hard.
When you begin to approach yourself from a place of unconditional care, everything else in your life has a sturdier foundation to grow from:
Your relationships feel more balanced
Your decisions become clearer
Your sense of peace and purpose deepens
That’s not self-indulgence.
That’s healing in motion.
A Gentle Reflection
So today, ask yourself this:
“What would I do today if I were caring for myself the way I would care for someone I truly, unconditionally loved?”
Start there.
You don’t need to get it all right.
You just need to begin.
How Hypnotherapy Supports Self-Compassion
As a solution-focused hypnotherapist, I often work with clients who feel stuck in self-criticism, perfectionism, or emotional burnout. Hypnotherapy can help gently shift the subconscious patterns that keep you from being kind to yourself — and replace them with a mindset rooted in resilience, self-worth, and emotional wellbeing.
You deserve to feel at home within yourself.
Not someday — now.
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