Is Self-Love Indulgent? Or Is It Something Else?
Sometimes, the idea of self-love can feel… a bit selfish, can’t it?
It can sound fluffy or unrealistic, like something reserved for quiet weekends, wellness retreats, or when everything else on your list is finally done. For many of us, especially those who put others first or measure our worth through productivity, the concept of self-love can feel uncomfortable or even out of reach.
But what if self-love isn’t about indulgence at all?
What if it is something much deeper, and much simpler?
Rethinking What Self-Love Really Means
Think for a moment about how a parent loves a child.
You don’t love a child because of their achievements. You don’t say, “I’ll love you when you get everything right.” You love them because they are yours. Caring for them, protecting them, and helping them thrive feels natural and important.
Imagine treating yourself with that same level of compassion, patience, and understanding.
What If You Treated Yourself That Way?
You were given one life, one body, and one mind. With that comes the quiet responsibility to care for yourself in the best way you can. Not because you reached a certain goal and not because you are perfect, but simply because you are worthy of care.
Self-love is not indulgent. It is foundational.
Self-Love Is Not Pampering, It Is Emotional Wellbeing
True self-love is not about bubble baths or luxuries. It is about showing up for yourself with compassion, even on the days when you feel overwhelmed or unsure.
When you begin to treat yourself with unconditional care, everything in your life gains a stronger foundation:
Your relationships feel healthier
Your decisions become clearer
Your confidence and sense of purpose deepen
Your nervous system feels safer and more settled
That is not self-indulgence. That is healing in motion, and it is an important part of long-term emotional wellbeing.
A Gentle Reflection
Take a moment to ask yourself:
“What would I do today if I cared for myself the way I care for someone I truly and unconditionally love?”
Start there. You do not need to get everything perfect. You just need to begin.
Small steps in self-compassion create powerful change over time.
How Hypnotherapy Helps You Build Self-Compassion
As a solution-focused hypnotherapist, I often work with people who feel stuck in self-criticism, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or emotional burnout. These patterns can run deep in the subconscious mind, and they can make self-love feel impossible.
Hypnotherapy helps calm the nervous system, reduce overwhelm, and gently shift the beliefs that hold you back from treating yourself with kindness. Together we focus on emotional resilience, self-worth, and a more grounded sense of wellbeing.
You deserve to feel at home within yourself. Not someday in the distant future, but now.
Ready to Begin?
If you are ready to reconnect with yourself from a place of calm and compassion, I would love to help.
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Hi, I’m Lorraine Sheppard.
I help people who feel overwhelmed, stuck, or simply not themselves find a sense of lightness again. Through gentle hypnotherapy and solution-focused techniques, many clients start feeling better within just a few sessions. Having navigated my own anxiety and depression, I bring not only professional experience but a real understanding of what it’s like, and a genuine commitment to helping you move towards lasting, meaningful change.
